I’m sorry for your losses and I’m glad you’re doing better.
I had one last year (at 9 and a half weeks) and it was horrible physically and emotionally. It was made all that much worse by horrifyingly incompetent care I recieved at the hospital (a prestigious hospital in major city of all places). The trauma caused by the hospital along with the trauma a miscarriage causes to begin with definitely threw me into PTSD territory. I can’t even drive near the area of the hospital without having anxiety and flashbacks.
It didn’t help that I was surrounded by well-intentioned loved ones who didn’t know what else to do but say “keep your head up,” “just decide to put yourself over it,” “don’t worry, a next one will come” sort of comments.
I don’t think you ever really get over it, you just learn to better cope with it and live a relatively normal life. That’s what a lot of people who have never been through it (and especially men) don’t understand.
I’m doing better, but I still have those days… It’s also been affecting my current pregnancy. I’m 7 weeks along and dealing with a mix of anxiety and stress over all the things that could go wrong. My clinic referred me to a perinatal psychiatrist, but I haven’t heard from them yet. So hopefully they see me soon and are able to help.
As this article also shows, it’s definitely time that women’s health and mental health started to be taken seriously. They are both shamefully ignored.